How to Prepare for and Hold a Bulimia Intervention
If you have a loved one that is over-exercising, binging, purging, and even taking laxatives, you should strongly consider holding a bulimia intervention for her. While these behaviors may not be explicitly seen by you, there are often signs of these behaviors and actions. Excessive trips to the gym, immediately going to the bathroom after eating, and even empty boxes of laxatives hidden in the wastebasket can all point to the necessity of a bulimia intervention.
If you feel it’s time to address these issues and request that your loved one seek help, these are tips that can assist you in preparing for and holding your own bulimia intervention. If you are not comfortable in the leader’s chair, check local listings in your area for intervention mediators. They are very experienced in cases such as this, and can help you organize and plan for it.
Family and Friends
Begin talking to family and friends. You may be surprised how many people have been noticing and even affected by the girl’s disease. Maybe some of them have witnessed purging or binging firsthand and would like an opportunity to come out and address their concerns and love for her.
Arrange a meeting place for all family and friends involved. You can form a plan of action and speak of your own concerns at this time. You can also discuss possible in and outpatient rehabilitation centers that would be most beneficial to her needs. In addition to this, you would be wise to choose a meeting place and time for the intervention. Try to choose a calming, private location (even her house), and a time of day when she is more likely to be receptive and open to your suggestions.
Get Out the Guilt
If the girl in question is your daughter, you will likely have a lot of guilt about her condition, as will most people involved in the bulimia intervention. Any small little comments about her weight, even made innocently, may come back to haunt you. You may find yourself dwelling on them and you can even completely blame yourselves for her condition.
Get a hold of yourself though, and don’t allow your mind to be caught up in these negative thoughts. You and her other loved ones need to get past any feelings of guilt you may be harboring so that you can offer her nothing but love and positive feelings and energies when you finally confront her. Remember, the most important thing is that you are all presently here to support her in bettering herself and getting rid of this obstacle in her life.
The Intervention Itself
Once you are all in place, begin by each telling her that you love her very much. Do so honestly and lovingly. She will likely feel attacked and humiliated that her secret is out, and it is imperative that you do not sound like you are passing judgment on her.
If she becomes argumentative and denies her bulimia, do not become angered or confrontational. Explain to her that bulimia is something that simply needs to be treated, like an infection or a vision problem, and is nothing to feel ashamed about. Continue reiterating that you love her and want her to be happy and healthy.
Explain what it is you want her to do in order to get better. Show her a brochure of the treatment place, or compromise that she undergoes a medical counseling session if a treatment center is out of the question. Above all, be supportive and loving; she is scared and likely hurt, but you are doing this for her well-being and future.